What do you do when you’re feeling overwhelmed?
Since then, I’ve been exploring ways to deal with the impact of second-hand trauma. I’ve learned that the answer doesn’t come in a box – it isn’t a toolkit or a technique, (although those things can be super helpful.) But each person has to create their own, unique combination of ways that work. It’s your journey – no one else can give you your answers.
I moved to Savannah, Georgia in 2016, following my dream to live near the ocean. I expected to continue working remotely for a national non-profit and build a small therapy practice. When my therapy license wouldn’t easily transfer to my new state, I realized this was my chance to shift to working with compassionate professionals, helping them work through the same challenges I had faced.
I became a Whole Person Certified Coach in December, 2018, bringing over 20 years experience as a therapist to this new adventure. As a therapist, I worked primarily with people who experienced lots of trauma in childhood, or ACESs, Adverse Childhood Events. I learned ways to help my clients work through the lingering impact of trauma on their lives and my clients helped me understand their pathways to healing. I’m deeply grateful for the people who shared their experiences with me, and awed at the strength and resilience of my clients.
But it can be overwhelming. I know what it’s like to be in the middle of it – to be surrounded by trauma and not even realize that it was affecting me. It took a panic attack at the park to wake me up. (Read more about that here.)
Music, the ocean, and trees…
I became a coach because I want to walk with you on that journey.
I don’t have your answers for you, but I do know what questions to ask to help you get there. I have some maps, and I know how to get around some of the pitfalls and quagmires along the way. I’ve used a lot of toolkits, found new perspectives and tried a wide range of techniques. Together, we can figure out what’s right for you. Step by step, you’ll reconnect to the courage and strength you already have inside.
My experience as a therapist has given me a deep understanding of people and the factors that drive personal growth and development. I’ve used cognitive behavioral therapy to help people recognize that the stories they tell themselves may not be the whole story, and I’ve used dialectical behavior therapy techniques to teach people how to handle difficult emotions and to deal more effectively with difficult people. I bring those skills to my work as a coach, helping people unfold their potential and reduce the harm of secondary trauma. (Read more about my work background here.)
I live in Savannah, Georgia, in a multi-generational household, where I enjoy the warm weather and being close to the ocean. When I’m not coaching, or blogging about it, I enjoy playing with my grandchildren, exploring new restaurants with my daughter, traveling with my life partner, Dennis, and walking on the beach by myself.