Why Mindful Self-Compassion?
Talking to myself the way I would to a good friend…
I’ve been on a journey for years exploring tools and techniques to support the work I do. Huge milestones on that journey have included training in Cognitive Behavioral approaches, Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills, and Mindfulness. Mindful Self-Compassion has been a new milestone. I’ve shifted perspectives. Just because I can do something doesn’t mean I have to do it. Productivity is not the measure of my worth.
I’ve embraced the “curious paradox” of Carl Rogers that “when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” I used to believe that accepting myself, and being self-compassionate in general, would lead to me laying around on the couch, reading books and snacking on pretzels all day long.
Of course, that’s one of the myths of mindful self-compassion – that we won’t accomplish anything if we’re not hard on ourselves. As it turns out, self-compassion not only helps me feel better, it helps me manage those times when I don’t feel like doing anything, when I’m procrastinating, or when I get triggered by some situation and want to hide from the shame I feel.
We don’t learn how to be self-compassionate as children.
Nobody teaches us that. It’s not surprising if you grew up thinking you needed to be hard on yourself to get anything done. But that’s not true. The fact of the matter is that being self-compassionate actually helps us accomplish more of our goals.
About Mindful Self-Compassion
MSC was developed by Christopher K. Germer, PhD, leader in the integration of mindfulness and psychotherapy, and Kristin Neff, PhD, pioneering researcher in the field of self-compassion. MSC combines the skills of mindfulness and self-compassion, providing a powerful tool for emotional resilience. Mindfulness is the first step in emotional healing—being able to turn toward and acknowledge our difficult thoughts and feelings (such as inadequacy, sadness, anger, confusion) with a spirit of openness and curiosity. Self-compassion involves responding to these difficult thoughts and feelings with kindness, sympathy and understanding so that we soothe and comfort ourselves when we’re hurting.
(From the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion website.)
Mindful Self-Compassion Classes
- 90 Minute Introductory Class
- One day Workshop
- 8 Week Class (Meets requirements for Teachers’ Training pre-requisite)
Mindful Self-Compassion Coaching
Individual coaching provides support for building a life that integrates self-compassion in daily life.
Mindful Self-Compassion Groups
Work in process – Groups to be announced
Mindful Self-Compassion for Organizations
Work in process – email me for more information.